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Why Does She Date Men That Are Beneath Her?


Dear Bunmi,

My best friend has a habit of dating unsuitable men but her latest one has gone straight to the top of the losers’ list! She’s very good looking and  average looking, has a boring job and generally not that much to offer. I did hint that I didn’t think he was good enough for her, but she really told me off. I just want to see her happy.

Cathy, by e-mail.

Dear Cathy,

How about you letting her live her life and make her own choices and decisions? That might make her happy. What definitely won’t make her happy is an interfering best friend who criticises and offers advice without being asked.

Ever heard of the saying ‘Beauty is in the eye of the beholder?’ It’s your friend’s eyes looking at this guy and she might see something completely different from what you see.

How can you know what he has to offer? Some things are not immediately apparent – like honesty, kindness, a sense of humour, empathy or a killer tongue technique? You’re her friend, not her mother.