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At the heart of many sad and pitiable stories around the globe is a poor parent-child relationship.

Fruit bearing is the hallmark of every legitimate union between husband and wife. Marriage wouldn’t be as blissful or interesting as it should when one of the most interesting condiments of the union is missing – children.

Children are the fruits and blessings of any marriage. The moment a woman puts to bed, the news of her birth literally sets everyone into a celebration mode.

As a child grows and goes through the biological stages of development from childhood into adulthood, they begin to display irrational juvenile tendencies.

From time immemorial, mothers have been the closest to their children, right from when the child is in the womb, take their first step until they become able to delineate between right and wrong; to make their own choices.

Unfortunately, in most cases, that close relationship between the mother and child begins to fade away the moment the child becomes self-aware, and can recognize good from bad, left from right.

No matter how grown a child is, or mature they (children) think they are, parents should for no reason leave them to their whims and caprices.

Even parents whose parents are still alive from time to time get cautioned and advice from their parents.

How did a once congenial and cordial parent-children relationship get disrupted? Questions to children – How well do you know your children?

Do you know what your children are going through emotionally? Or what exactly they are thinking of? Who’s oppressing or interesting them? Do you have ideas of whom they move with or call their friends?

Please, I ask again, what kind of relationship do you have with your sons and daughter?

Dear parents! Try building a close relationship with your children so much so that they feel free to tell you anything and everything bothering them.

Ordinarily, parent should be the closest and easiest persons to communicate with but many parents pay little or no attention to their children not to talk of having productive conversations with them.

The paucity in the relationship between parents and their children is the primary cause of the overexposure of these wards to wrong and harmful information and advice from irresponsible people and peers.

In this side of the globe, especially in our culture, a good child is for the father and the bad for the mother; and of course no mother wants to be accused of not training her child well.

Therefore, mothers, make every little moment you get with your child count – for every change in their facial expressions, behaviours, attitudes and even choice of diet means your attention is needed; they sometimes would not come straight to tell you, but need you to ask them.

Parents, regardless of the urge to sometimes be judgmental of your wards in the bid to correct and advise them, try to resist this urge because it will only drive a wedge and increase the lacunae between you and your wards.

Mind you parent, don’t judge them nor use what they’ve told you against them because if you do, they won’t speak nor tell you anything that’s bothering them again.

If you don’t have a close relationship with your child, try as much as possible to create one.

Make them feel they can always run back to you when the need arises. Go as far as hanging out with them; you can gist, watch movies, eat and drink and do fun things to further build and develop your relationship.

Once you are able to build this relationship with them, some silly and preventable juvenile mistakes can be reasonably avoided.

Make them your best friend and pay more attention to them than you would with your friends.

I can almost hear our adorable children singing – parents listen to your children, for we are the leaders of tomorrow…

Start by investing in their future, and always remember to create time for them.


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